How To Stop Feeling Angry After She Cheated On You

By Jeraldine Hemongala

If you find out that your wife has been unfaithful to you, a number of things might go through your mind, some of them probably related to revenge. Then again you might feel depressed, or angry, or all of these emotions at once, which is entirely possible.

There are constructive ways to deal with the anger you feel after being cheated on. Keep in mind that anger is often really "hurt" in disguise. The two emotions are very similar and often anger is a way to mask the hurt you harbor inside. So address the pain and you will also be addressing the anger.

You can do this in several ways.

So how do you fix it? How do you get rid of the anger after being cheated on? The following are a few pieces of advice you will want to follow:

1. You need to find someone to talk to, plain and simple. It could be a friend, it could be a counselor, or it could be someone from a support group. Maybe you could even speak to your local bartender. If you are a man, you might not feel comfortable talking about your feelings, but at some point you need to release the anger and talk through your problems. You will feel much better, and you can trust us when we say it will not make you less of a man.

2. Another way to get the anger out is to write your feelings down. Again, this comes easier for some than others. The point is to get those feelings on the outside; to work out what you are thinking and feeling so you can move on to deciding what you want. Can you forgive and forget? Is the relationship worth salvaging? Is your wife willing to try again? Are you?

2. It might seem like a waste of time, but a depressed and angry person should do this on a regular basis as it benefits them greatly. Through exercise, positive hormones are released which will help to fight stress. In addition to that, your pent up energy will be released. Also, exercise will help you to feel better about yourself!

One of the biggest issues of discovering infidelity is a loss of self esteem. Why did they do it? Were you not good enough? By exercising you will get yourself in shape, raise your self esteem, and ultimately stop questioning yourself.

Take the lesson and forget what happened. It is easier said than done, but in time things will get easier. Take measures to forget it one day at a time. Distract yourself by being busy and just move on with your life.

4. Learn your lessons, and in time, things will become easier. There are many ways to distract yourself, and eventually, move on with your life.

Moving forward means knowing there is a possibility of rebuilding a much better marriage than you had before your wife's affair. Or if not, having another relationship again that is better and happier than the one you previously had.

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