Tricks To Being More Positive And Releasing Negative Thoughts

By Marina Babenko

Knowing that worry and fear might be holding you back from living the life of your dreams and stopping that worry or fear are two different things. You might know that you live with a lot of fear or worry but changing your thoughts or your mind can be difficult. The feeling of helplessness or sadness over a particular situation or your life can leave you feeling like things will never change. You want to be happy and optimistic about your future but what can you do? How can you get past these negative thoughts and become happier and more optimistic about your life? How can you end the depressing days and begin to change your life?

When our life is in turmoil, often mornings are the most difficult time. You're confronted with worry and fear before you even get out of bed. It's another day filled with the same problem that you had when you went to sleep and chances are you didn't sleep very well, to begin with. You dread the day with the job that you despise or the relationship that you wish would change or the impending phone calls from bill collectors. No matter what the situation might be, it greets you as your reality seeps in and you're defeated before the day even begins.

While you might be tempted to just want to call it a day before it even begins, make your first thought one of kindness to yourself. Understand that this is a pattern and a habit. You wake up and you start to worry. Instead, make a conscious decision to not think about the problem or even try to come up with a solution first thing in the morning. Pretend that you're a little child with sleep still in your eyes. You're innocent and vulnerable. Don't insist that you come face to face with this so called reality and instead tell yourself that you love yourself and that you're not going to think about the problem until you're fully awake. This might not be until you've had a cup of coffee or a shower or you could even set a time limit on this. Tell yourself that you're not going to be ready to deal with all of this until 11:00 or until after lunch, if necessary.

Understanding that you're thoughts aren't very positive is also a trick that you can try with yourself. Recognizing this thought pattern can take some of the power out of it and defuse the damage that it can do. Allowing worry and negative thoughts to run rampant is a waste of time and it's rare that a solution is found when your mind is focused on the problem instead of a solution. After all, it's often someone emotionally removed from the situation that can see the solution so remove yourself emotionally from the burden of worry. Clear your mind and prepare yourself for finding this solution.

When you feel that you are filled with fear or loathing about your life or your situation, tell that fear that it's not welcome at the moment. You understand that this is your instincts telling you to either fight or flee from a dangerous situation but you have the matter in hand. Worrying and being fearful can make you freeze like a wild animal caught in the middle of the road not knowing which direction to go to escape that danger. Channel that instinct and allow it to motivate you to do great things. Harness the power of your mind to find that solution as you visualize about your destination, that is, your life once you solve the problem that has you so upset. Dream about what you really want your life to be like and feel all the emotions that go along with being in that place in your life.

Being a little stubborn with yourself and with these negative emotions is very important. While you might wish that it was as simple as flipping a switch or turning a key, these negative thoughts will probably try to return rather quickly. This has been your habit for a while and how you have been living. Being persistent and believing in yourself and your ability to change your thoughts and change your life is key. Remember that these negative thoughts are not helping you and they're preventing you from making the changes necessary for your own happiness can help. Try not to become angry with yourself but be gentle with yourself and love yourself. Respect these thoughts but understand their use and master your emotions for your overall well-being.

Allowing yourself to dream and finding a little quite time alone in each and every day is also helpful. No matter what the situation might be, push aside the trouble and fill this time with nothing but dreams of happiness, success and love. Gather photos that bring you joy, listen to some peaceful music playing softly in the background and let yourself live in that time when everything is exactly the way that you want it to be. You deserve to be happy and you have the ability to solve any problem in your life. Your thoughts are the plans for your future and without these thoughts you will remain stuck in your present reality. Allow these methods to become a part of your daily routine. Soon you'll find that you're happier, your problems become smaller and solutions to what formerly seemed overwhelming come to you easily.

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